Saturday, January 19, 2013

FORGET about calling men “just to talk.”

Your job is to create mystery, allure and desire. If you are too available, and if you don’t give him the opportunity to miss you, you’ll lose the tension you are trying to build. The only reason for calling a man is to return his call. Period.

FORGET about telling a man you like him first.

Let a man express his feelings and interest first. Let him feel the sheer terror of not being sure that you will accept his feelings or even return them. Believe it or not, this is part of the adrenalin rush he craves when he chases women. It may seem cruel, but if so, it’s because you don’t understand his needs. The more uncertainty and terror he feels, the greater the conquest, when you return his feelings. Remember – you’re not his mother. It’s not your job to make him feel safe. You are there to make him keep coming back.

FORGET about stressing over petty details. He doesn’t care! 

He’s not your girlfriend – he’s a man. He’s not going to care or even notice if your handbag is “a little bit off” or if you’re a brunette and he’s always had a thing for blondes. Quit making yourself crazy. He doesn’t care about that stuff. You’re out on a date with a great guy. Besides, here’s how your "obsessions" are probably playing out in his head:

FORGET about cheating on him.  

Men look for loyalty in a woman, and while “Stand by Your Man” may have been a hit for Tammy Wynette—to say nothing of the long list of women who have made it their mantra over the years, from Hillary Rodham Clinton to Mary Jo Buttafuoco — don’t think for one minute a man will begin singing the same tune!

Men will not forgive a cheating girlfriend. Guys that have been betrayed, especially in the bedroom, are far less likely to forgive their partners than women would be in the same situation. Women can win big points by supporting their man in front of colleagues and friends and defending him when necessary.